March 17 2014 I read about a man in America who was sentenced to death for killing the revenge killing of the 8-year-old daughter of his ex (who returned to her ex).
   How can we stop this happening again? We can stop this person doing it again. But prevention is better than cure.
   But can we stop it every happening again? Does a divorce request and finalisation come with an exhortation to act well?
    It should say, three times:
 
1 Your only chance of getting your ex back is by being a reasonable and loveable person.
2 Your children and theirs must be protected. They are innocent. Leave them out. They have the right to the same happiness you wanted when you were a child.
3 If things don't go well, there are millions of other people in the world. One of them will be as glad to meet you, when you are free, as you will be to meet them.
4 The way to get over this is by starting again. New challenge, new home, new job, new friends, new job, new day - new start.

Tragic Tales Teach Us

March 6 2014
Deaths of drunk drivers?
Daily Mail online reports body in bayou, missing student's car veered off road. Driver was allegedly drunk.
RIP Hayley Howard, age 19.

Leaders and followers, war and peace

WWI
    The Great War was a time of heroism and horrors. The Great War was supposed to be the world to end all wars. Soldiers who enlisted in the autumn were told they would be home by Christmas. Both proved untrue.
   When reading the life story of the East End poet, I discovered that he was a poor boy who joined up for the most close to home reason. In addition to the hypnotic government appeals to patriotism, was the practical and commendable desire to earn a regular wage to support his widowed mother. She, of course would be lonely with her son overseas, worried, and heartbroken to lose her son in the war.

WWII


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Followers

Learn From Life's Teachers

Life's teachers are first those nearest and dearest, your protective mother giving warmth, reassuring cuddles, milk; then your father, fighting off enemies and bringing home the bread; visiting grandparents and other older relatives.
   Nowadays this usually works well for a baby, especially if a new mother can get advice from her mother or books. But life has brought us much more danger and information than 100 years ago. Then old wives tales worked.  Now we have the internet and grandchildren are teaching grandparents.
    You can see how cats and dogs and other animals learn from the nearest teacher or trainer. If you are lucky you can watch and learn from others - the oldest, who have survived by skill or chance. Then from the group. Lastly from the wide world if you are human, through books, TV and the internet.
Museum of Sex - Animal Behaviour In Zoos
    You learn to eat, protect yourself from weather. avoid danger, seek new experiences. I was shocked when I went to the Museum of Sex in New York and saw videos of animals from zoos and safari parks. Without guidance or restraint, as I knew from childhood, a cuckoo puts its own egg in the nest of others. Many animals like lions fight their own families.
Anthropology & Animals In Cages  
   Anthropologists found from experiments with small rodents which breed fast, probably rats, that when animals are crowded together they fight. Within each group there are the majority who follow each other, the leader, or leaders, and the weakest who are either protected or abandoned or attacked.
Farms and Cows  
   I was shocked when I went to a farm and learned that when cows give birth, the male offspring have to be moved to another field. Otherwise they breed with the mother, producing cows which are malformed physically, and mentally unbalanced, erratic behaviour, aggressive and uncontrollable. So the rules about incest are not just about not preventing jealousy between siblings as to which one is favoured, and between mother and daughter, or father and son, but also to prevent breeding unstable offspring who cannot look after themselves and attack others.  
Amusing Meerkats
    Modern TV programmes show us movements of large groups out in the wild. For example, meerkats.
Human History
  Let's look at what happened in America, Australia, Nazi Germany and other countries. A group has a shortage of food so they either fight anybody who has resources go gain more for themselves. or they emigrate. Then they are either welcomed by the other groups they encounter, or they fight, or cause the original inhabitants to move.
   Life makes more sense when you see patterns. Knowledge is the first step towards controlling events. If you can foresee trouble, you can evade it or prepare to protect yourself and your family and country.
   Avoid trouble. Protect yourself. Read on.